Widowed Young Blog

Exchanging vows that day, the world was filled with possibilities … the optimism and dreams of a future life … a family and shared experiences for years to come. That day, no one expects to be Widowed Young.

Reflection on the last year of life from Vienna

by: Megan Spanitz

Posted on: July 23rd, 2012

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Today is July 23, 2012. Tomorrow I will turn 35 years old. This will be the last significant occasion of my year of “firsts without Paul,” because less than one week later will be the firstanniversary of his passing.
Paul was my best friend, soul mate and love of my life. When we married just under eight years ago I thought we would grow old together.
The last year has been so hard,  it has forced me to live a series of emotions and feelings that I had never encountered before like loneliness, anxiety and depression. I have forced myself to get used to the idea of living alone managing a household of one and facing the fact that I am a widow.
As I sit alone in a park in Vienna, Austria this morning drinking coffee and watching ducks swim in a pond, I feel calm. A feeling that 51 weeks ago I never thought I would feel that way again. I plan to spend the day here reading my book in the sunshine. Thinking of Paul and how much I continue to miss him, every single day – especially today as I approach my birthday. I will think about how many occasions we celebrated together and that will warm the empty space in my heart.

Introducing blogger, Megan Spanitz

by: Judith Burdick

Posted on: July 18th, 2012

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Megan Spanitz is a young widow who I have had the honor of working with since the death of her husband Paul, a year ago. As part of her healing journey, we will be partnering on this blog. You can follow her progress and hopefully gain insight and hope into your own grief experience. I will also share my thoughts and wisdom as well as professional suggestions as we move forward together. Always feel free to respond to our posts for the purpose of sharing and/or clarification………welcome Megan.

Introduction

by: Judith Burdick

Posted on: February 4th, 2011

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Judith BurdickWelcome to my blog. I know first-hand how difficult it can be to find yourself young and widowed.

There are essentially no rules created by our culture to help younger people facing these kinds of tragedies, nor sufficient life experiences to help prepare one for such trauma. Resources and direction for people in this situation seem few and far between, but it is my goal to provide you with the tools that just didn’t exist at the time of my husband’s death twenty years ago.

I bring aspects of my own story, and my children’s story, to help flesh out the multiple layers and stages of the journey you are beginning right now. These are integrated with the narratives of other participating survivors. I will share information about the grief process, coping strategies, resources, events and support groups. I will share my journey in producing Young and Widowed: A Documentary, while elaborating on the issues presented within the film.

Remember, you are not alone. Together, I can help you develop a renewed spirit and sense of hope.

Sincerely,
Judith R. Burdick